Why We Are Not Ready To Settle Just Yet

I realized today as we waved goodbye to another traveling Russian family that we really are travelers at heart.

We are camping on the Black Sea in Georgia right now, so it’s playing barefoot in the forest with other kids, fashioning all kinds of things from sticks and stones, discovering new insects, plants and nature with different traveling kids from day to day .

An outdoor kitchen for me and an office for Robert, sleeping under the trees and hearing the birds.

* Sigh * this is blissful.

So I was thinking, yes, definitely a farm or community one day when we settle.
And then I thought. But it would have to be a community of travelers, people coming and going.

We like that. It’s completely different to a static community.

I compared further. When you meet travelers you hardly ever ask ” what is your occupation?”
For most people you meet you will never know and its irrelevant .

Most people do ask us about work when we tell them we are full time travelers and they ask about schooling when they meet our son as its quite different to what many are used to, well at least for those not full time traveling too . But out here, your occupation or financial status makes no difference on how people view you. It doesn’t matter.

Mostly as soon as we see new comers we say ” hello, where are you from?” and the conversations turns into travel and places.

In a settled community, members become familiar with each other. Often too familiar. Inevitably there are personal clashes between kids and or adults. This one starts talking about that one, this one knows more of that one’s personal business, financial situation, marital and family dynamics and things just become heavy. Its natural. That’s what happens, but not when you are traveling.

Call us shallow but we are not interested in other people’s personal lives and we are not interested in sharing our personal lives with others. We don’t do drama, not ours and not other people’s either. When we meet travelers we take them at face value. But it’s not as shallow as you might think.

You get to see how kind, friendly and generous people are to complete strangers. You see how open and interested people are to meet others from completely different backgrounds and religions and you cut through the BS and see how people really are to you and to others. They don’t have to be nice, friendly or interested in anyone else, and some aren’t, but most are.

We have seen many situations where people’s countries or religions are literally at war with each other but while traveling they connect with each other, share a meal or three and get to know each other as people. It’s fascinating to watch.

When they leave, we have made another set of friends from a foreign country, we have made friends with folks of all ages, single, couples and families from all over the world and we keep in touch thanks to the internet. Many of them we will visit in their homelands in the future, some in countries we would not have considered before. That excites us 😁😁

We don’t get involved in local politics either, we are so over that coming from South Africa and every country has its own politics. Each side has their own story and reasons and really mostly, politics are the games “The powers that be” play for their own bigger agendas. We see the game and agenda though. We just watch and don’t get emotionally involved, we have our own views on certain things in the world and respect others have theirs, and that’s as far as our involvement goes. We don’t even get involved in online expat groups where people and local political discussions can get quite heated.

In any event ” The powers that be” really couldn’t care less about the lesser ” rats on the wheel” and only use people to drive their agendas.

So we have jumped off that wheel. We are not playing that pointless game, we only find out the gist of the local politics mostly for interest and safety sake while we are in the country.

Permanent travelers, or at least many who have been traveling for some years mostly look at politics in a worldly and cultural view , they can’t help it, they see things as they are, (without being made to feel guilty about it either) and not as media portrays it. We like that about those traveling observers.

Those are interesting discussions with interesting people.

So in a community, in a country, we would have to be more informed and emotionally involved with the local politics as it would directly affect us and well, no, not for us thanks. Not now. Maybe not ever.

We love that over breakfast a boy twice my sons age will tell him the names if his toys in Russian and tomorrow a Georgian or German kid will play another game with him. Or next week we meet another American traveling family from one of our online traveling groups.

I love that total strangers will sit around together in the communal area and either just ” do their own thing” or strike up a conversation with another , play a game together, share food, share jokes and share stories.

We love that our son doesn’t only see his peers as friends but anyone of any age that plays or chats to him. Same goes for us too.

So as you can hear, it sounds like we just float on top of it all and that ” it’s all about the people” for us. We’ll, yes it is. We see and experience breathtaking places, we learn about each culture by living it and tasting it, and we feel so blessed.

But mostly, we love the people we meet along the way and so I guess it seems we will always find ourselves mixing it up with the travelers. But settling in a community now? It would feel like putting us back into a box.
We are not ready, maybe not ever ❤️